The Lie of One-Size-Fits-All Success

Finding alignment in your design, not someone else’s script

We’re told that if we just follow the right formula, we’ll succeed.

Wake up at 5am.
Follow the morning routine.
Drink the green juice.
Copy the exact steps laid out in the latest book, program, or community.

And when someone does succeed, society rushes to package it up: “Just do what they did and you’ll get the same results.”

It sounds reasonable. It even feels hopeful. But it’s one of the biggest lies we’re told.

Why Formulas Fail

Here’s the truth: what worked for them worked because it was aligned with their wiring, timing, and design.

Not because they hacked the system.
Not because they had more willpower.
And definitely not because they found the magic morning routine.

It worked because it matched who they are.

When we try to force ourselves into someone else’s alignment, it doesn’t make us successful. It makes us burned out, discouraged, and convinced there’s something wrong with us.

And the worst part? We start to believe we’re broken when really, the formula was.

The Deeper Truth

Maybe alignment isn’t something you can chase or copy. Maybe it’s something you came in with.

Something woven into you before you even had words.

It permeates everything you do, but you can’t see it, not clearly, when you’re stuck comparing, rating, and ranking yourself against someone else’s script for success.

This is why deconditioning matters. It’s not about rejecting every idea out there. It’s about unpacking the suitcase of “shoulds” society has stuffed into your hands, so you can finally notice what was yours all along.

The Invitation

Formulas will keep being sold. That won’t stop.

But the real work isn’t about finding the right formula. It’s about uncovering your design, your rhythms, your way forward.

It’s slower.
It’s messier.
And it doesn’t fit neatly into a sales page.

But it’s the only thing that lasts.

💡 Reflection: Where have you felt the pressure to follow a formula that didn’t fit, and what shifted when you gave yourself permission to follow your own path?